Because if you do, you’re not alone. IT IS A THING.
Inspired by a brave and daring post I was commenting on within the last week, I was PM’d and asked to talk a little bit about Upper Limiting. A term coined by Gay Hendricks in his book “The Big Leap”.
I think the book is MEH; I think the concept is spot on.
We have internal comfort zones. These are based on all the ways we are implicitly taught to view ourselves and our abilities. We are taught what we deserve in life.
We can be HUGELY successful in one area, or a few areas, but the thought of being successful and free and complete in ALL areas somehow short-circuits our system.
When we short circuit, we start to do things like self-sabotage, cause strife, bully people, get defensive, or maybe even get sick!
I believe that we have it in us to face whatever thing is embedded in us that tries to stop us from being 100% in all areas. Steven Pressfield calls this “resistance” in his book “The War of Art”.
When you’re feeling like some encouragement is needed, that is a sign that you are weary in your heart. Weary in your soul. That some little part of you seems to bump up against your awesomeness. This is normal. Natural. But it does not have to be a deal breaker in life. It can be breathed through, and like hot coals; walked over.
I see this a lot in clients I work with. I see this a lot in me.
Success is scary. It isn’t as comfortable as we would like to pretend it is. Feeling free, and whole, and complete is villainized. We feel guilt and shame over having enough and being enough.
Success means we are called to be responsible. And responsibility means potential failure.
We feel bad for doing well. For being at peace. For being happy.
So we find ways to stop ourselves from “the sin of being content.”
Facing the real issues of why we would upper limit is not a “mindset game”.
It isn’t “food for thought”.
Breaking through the Upper Limit means bravely taking a careful look at all we have been taught by our parents, friends, teachers, coaches, lovers. Our LIFE.
It means coming to terms with our fear of success. Admitting why we feel “not allowed” to be whole.
Then saying SCREW THAT BIDNEZ. IMMA BEASTYBOSS and THAT is OKAY. More than okay, actually.
It’s the way it supposed to be.
Even when it feels like the warrior is a child. (If you get THAT song reference, I will give you cookies.)
GET IT, my VOICE-Y PEEPS. GO. GET. IT.
Do the hard work of allowing yourself to thrive.
P.S. If you’re ready to CRASH through your upper limits, use this link, and let’s meet for virtual coffee and get crackin’.