The key of B-Sharp.
(If you are a super music theory nerd, you see where I am going with this, connecting bitterness with this particular key. Just hang out and wait for the delicious satisfaction of knowing you know. No spoilers!)
B-Sharp is full shenanigans and theoreticals. It’s real, yet unreal. It’s messy, confusing, complicated, and annoying. It’s hard to navigate and it’s hard to make sense of. It forces our brains to work overtime. It causes us to reframe all the good in the world and just make it more… convoluted.
Bitterness is like this, too. Whether we avoid it or seek it out, the little accidentals of life arise, and we start seeing things in a way that is both real and unreal at the same time. It is born of misunderstanding, complexity, and confusion.
Bitterness is painful. And it makes this life a whole helluva lot harder than it needs to be. Is causes our tongue to be sharp (HA! See what I did there?) and our attitude to be defensive.
I think this is because bitterness causes us to see the worst possible motives in others. It reframes the familiar into the disorienting.
Bitterness turns our Key of C into the Key of B#.
When we have that “AW POOP!” moment – the one where we wake up to the fact that we are in a pattern of making things awful all the time, we have an important choice.
It’s a difficult choice, to be sure, because it requires us to change.
And change requires new habits, discipline, and planning.
Still, we do have that gift of choice. We can choose to actively work to reframe those accidentals and get back to the Key of C.
Take a moment to observe yourself when:
~An email comes through that feels terse and cool, again.
~You read an asshat comment on Facebook, again.
~A family leaves the studio based on a misunderstanding, again.
~Someone complains about your pricing, again.
~Someone steals your content and repurposes as their own, again.
~Your kids refuse the dinner you set before them, AGAIN
These little accidentals try to put us on edge, distort our ease, and cause us to overthink. And we get bitter.
In the times you see bitterness forming, I commend you to have the courage to be vulnerable enough to recognize those accidentals creeping in.
Let’s hunger for steadfastness. Let’s turn our backs from bitterness and actively pursue healing. Let’s look at our misgivings and wounds as solvable and treatable.
This is self-nurturing. This is the gift of ease.
We shall play the same beautiful music with a different perspective: one that makes life relatable, familiar, and unpretentious.
All My BeastyBoss,
P.S. Most folks who feel bitterness didn’t get there on purpose. Things happened. Big things that hurt deeply and weren’t given the chance to heal up ~ so it just became a festering wound. (Ask me how I know.) Let’s not get bitter about other people’s bitterness. Unless we are making Old Fashioned’s.